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Introduction to Sue

 

Hi to everybody who may be reading this. My name is Sue, and I am Doug's fiancé. I would like to tell you a bit about myself so that you will understand how Doug and I met, fell in love and decided to marry.

 

I am British and 48 years of age. I have two children, Luke who is 16 years of age and Sarah who is 14 years of age. Luke has just left school and starts college in September, and Sarah will be going on up into Year 10 and starting to study for her final exams when she returns in September 07 after the Summer break.

 

I became a Christian in 1978 after attending a local church that my sister introduced me to. She was quite active in the church at the time and invited all the family along, and so we started going on a regular basis. It was a very lively and outgoing church which did a lot of outreach with the youngsters in the local community and as a result, saw many converts from the many different gangs that were around at the time, including Hells Angels and other bike gangs.

 

I was at a particular mid-week meeting and the speaker was a very well known pastor and leader of the church. His form of speaking was always very powerful and effective and this particular evening when he had preached, the message seemed to hit home. When people were invited to go forward for counseling and prayer, my legs just took me and I went forward. I really couldn't tell the person who I went to why I had come forward, but I just knew I had to. The Lord had spoken and had chosen me, and that was that. I remember thinking how happy I was and how great my life was at that time. I was engaged to be married for the first time to a great looking and great guy (or so I thought); but then I had a thought, and I don't know why, that life wasn't always going to be like this and that I might well have difficulties to overcome. Little did I know that a few years later my then fiancé would leave me after eleven years together for another girl. I was heart broken and had gone into a very deep depression which made me quite ill and for quite some months, made me withdraw into myself. By this time, I had changed my church and was standing in the communion service in the local Anglican church when all of a sudden the Lord took the depression away with a surge of power that went through me like electric; and the whole room was filled with light. It was such a powerful feeling of peace. I just hadn't had anything like that before, but a while later, the whole feeling of depression came back. I wondered why. I spoke to my sister about it and she said what God was telling me was that once I had worked through my problems and allowed God to guide me and followed a better path, my depression would go and I would feel better.

 

I started getting out and getting more involved with the church, and sure enough, things started to improve. I was doing what God wanted and gaining back some of my self confidence. Some months later, I was working in a menswear shop and this guy came in and started talking to me. He kept doing this on a regular basis, and soon asked me if I would like to go out with him. I did, and twelve months later, we were married. We soon were expecting our first child, but there were complications. She was born dead at seven months. That was obviously devastating for both of us, but after the initial shock and grief, I started to reason out with God and realized that there was a good reason why this had been allowed to happen, although at the time, I didn't know what it was. As time went by, I began to realize that my husband was not coping with his grief and was drinking heavily. He stated staying out late and not coming home from work without going out for a drink first. He would be very drunk when he finally came home. That started to be the pattern for the rest of our marriage. He started to get violent after sixteen years of this repetitive behavior and eventually the children, being old enough, understood what was going on. It killed any love I had ever felt for him.

 

In 2005, my husband decided he wanted out of the marriage and found himself another woman to marry. We were divorced twelve months later. I was left feeling very lonely and so upset that my marriage had failed. We had prayed long for him to become a Christian and people at my church said I shouldn't have married him; but I felt at the time I was doing the right thing. Twelve months passed, and I began to wish that there was someone else in my life. I started to pray for someone to come into my life, but as I looked around at the small church I now attended, there didn't seem to be anyone there or in any of the meetings or church events I went to. But, I hadn't thought of Doug. He had been coming to our church for about five years on and off, and I knew him to speak to him, but that was it. At the start of this year 2007, Doug came back from home leave. He had been gone since the previous September. We started talking and texting one another, and then I invited him around for a meal, then coffee, and then kept talking until one night the whole thing changed. Doug decided that he would like to get to know me better. We decided to meet up and talk about how we felt. It was so wonderful. It was like God took the blindfolds off each of us, and we realized that we actually really felt quite deeply for one another. God had really planned this whole thing down to the very finest detail. Unknown to me, Doug had also been praying for a partner too, for a long time, and here we both were - instruments in God's wonderful plan - and now, looking to get married in August of this year.

 

Praise God for His wonderful intervention in both of our lives. Without Him, none of this would have been possible. We just went looking at one another in that way; but now that we have found one another, we just don't want to be apart. We are so deeply in love and so wonderfully matched.

Doug Ambrose

OM Global Challenge

Community Evangelist
OM LifeHope 
Little Cornbow
Halesowen, West Midlands
B63 3AJ      England
Mobile Phone: +44 (0) 770 303 1867 
Work   Phone: +44 (0) 121 585 5662

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